Don't pick your scabs!

A simple scab on my daughters face allowed me to reflect on what true healing is all about.

We've all done it. Ripped that frickin' scab off early because we just want it gone. And what happens every time we take a scab off before the time is right...more pain, more sensitivity, often more bloodshed and longer healing time.
Then we have to wait for the body to re-scab because of our impatience and judgements that we don't want it to be there. Maybe its ugly, maybe its itchy, maybe its annoying. But we just want it gone.

But under this scab, tremendous healing is taking place. Cellular repair, cleanup, immune responses, and new cell formation is taking place every second. It seems like the scab is so static, but yet, underneath, is an entire world of healing. And the key; when the healing is done, the scab falls off. As humans we might call this, "letting go." You can't force the healing, it just happens. You can't force the change, it just happens. You can't force the letting go, it just happens. If you force the scab off early, more pain and longer healing. The same goes for everything else.

There is a magnificent timing to all that is going on in our life.

Where are the scabs in your life that you are trying to rip off, or get rid of? Where are you trying to force things to happen instead of letting it flow? (Been there, done that..a million times : ))Where, in fact, do you require more patience, time and healing? Think of the new cells, immune system and clean up crew with the scab, as new people, circumstances, or places that you need to come across and experience in order for the scab of life to change or fall away. There is a timing and rhythm to life and healing, and the people you meet and the places you go each day can all be part of the process of healing the scabs of life. You won't be able to see the healing happening all the time. Sometimes, it's just below your awareness. But know, that under your scabs of life, lies an organizing field of intelligence that is working for you, not against you. Patience, time and healing. Pay close attention to who you meet, names that are mentioned, people you talk to. They may just be an integral part of your healing process.

As I have paid attention, people on average hear about me well over a year before they ever come to seek out my services. Then, when they do, they say, "wow this was easy, I wish I would have listened and come when I first heard about you." And I reply, "the timing was perfect. You weren't supposed to be here earlier."(usually they had to pull off their scabs a few more times before taking action)

Ultimately, the key to healing is to be with your experiences and place yourself in an environment that supports your healing. When you do that, you give yourself the best opportunity for most natural healing. Make the time. Maybe its with family or certain friends, here at Veressent Life, in a yoga studio, sitting with a great cup of tea...Find your place and space to explore healing, patience, rhythms and your transformation! Your entire being will be happy you chose to nurture yourself and your healing.

If your tired  of picking your scab over and over, and want some assistance in your healing, give me a call and we will see if we are good fit. 1-807-628-0718

Exceptionally yours,

Dr. Steve

Finally! I Heard the Magic Words!

I have to say I had a huge smile on my face Wednesday. A practice member of mine, who has been under care for six months and most recently threw out her antidepressant medication and has been transforming her life, made a statement that got me glowing inside. (if what was happening with her wasn't exciting enough!)

She began with the statement I so often hear, "I have a friend who is suffering with fibromyalgia, can you..." Now the typical knee jerk question would be if I could help her friend with her condition.

But then something magical took place. Before she said the word "help", she stopped herself, and said, "well, I guess it doesn't matter what she is experiencing, you can help her."

Instantly, I was elated! Not because she said I could help, but that she had the instant awareness that her friend was not separate from her condition; and because this practice member was experiencing more wholeness for herself, she had the awareness of wholeness!!
She knew the fibromyalgia changing was dependent on her friend choosing to heal on the inside, not healing the condition. And if her friend on some level can heal, than than the fibromyalgia would take care of itself.
And she put together that what we do here in reorganizational healing is not treat conditions, but help the person to heal on the inside.  SHE GETS IT and it was exciting to hear!!

Healing is healing. It doesn't matter what conditions or crisis or circumstance someone is in, anxiety, depression, pain, sciatica, headaches, fibromyalgia, etc. It is the person that requires further healing, not the condition.

Unfortunately, or fortunately, society does not support this thinking. We have a system in medicine that is similar to that of an automobile factory. You come in. Get your part diagnosed. Go see the specialist for that part. Wait a hell of a long time to see the "specialist", get your part fixed and on with life.

There is little recognition for healing the person, and having the whole person addressed. People still feel they need to be labelled, and aren't recognizing that THEY need healing, NOT the part. But I guess that is reserved for us to share!  :)))

So here is a healing tip;

If you have a part of you that seems like it is doing its own thing, off in "la-la land" or just not cooperating, invite it to come back in to the rest of you. Don't condemn it, judge it, ridicule it, or tell it to go away like everyone else does. Invite that part to play with the whole.
Some good questions are;
How can I better accept the part for what it is doing?
How can I breathe with the part, move with the part, so as to invite it to join the rest of me?
How can I dance with that which is uncomfortable or painful?
How can I stay with the pain or circumstance and just be with it without the need to change it?
How can I just let a part of me have a temper tantrum without judging it or getting obsessed about it?

It's not the part that needs to change, but your relationship with yourself, and your healing that requires change.

If you are a long-time member continuing to have difficulties healing, please talk with me, so we can gain greater perspective on what is going on.
Or if you know anyone who needs to hear this message, please forward it on to them, hopefully broadening their perspective on what healing is.Sincerely,

Dr. Steve

P.S. Healing is always an inside job, only to be fascilitated by someone else. No one can heal you, but you.