In our efforts to become more congruent, authentic, and live inspired
lives, we often still have little habits within our personalities that we do to
disconnect from ourselves. I would encourage you to explore this with me. This
is important to bring to your awareness, because when we are feeling like we
are not enough, when we are feeling scared, or even angry, there are behaviours
that we have formed that seemingly help us in the moment, but yet are
disconnecting us from what we need to truly pay attention to.
Take eating for example. I find I will pick at food when I am
disconnecting, or sometimes I will go and 'pretend' to myself that I am being
productive at work, only to answer a few emails, and jot down a few ideas that
really won't mean much in the long run. As I bring my unconscious to conscious
awareness, I am then able to make more of an aware, conscious choice as to my
actions so they become more congruent and authentic, instead of mindless and on
autopilot.
Some people exercise like crazy in an effort to avoid not feeling
worthless or fat or not enough. Some people don't eat any sugar, coffee, or
"other nasties" because they are scared of what they might do, and
become obsessive in that. How about Facebook, T.V., phone, emails....
Obviously there is a time to 'do' things, but most people are not taking
enough time to just "be" with themselves and connect inward. I am
mentioning this, because if we did spend more time inward, we continue to
cultivate trust for our body, emotions, thoughts and feelings. When we
cultivate trust, we become more resilient to people and circumstances around
us.
Spending time inward is the time of self mastery...and since you only
get one kick at the can, it may be valuable to further get to know yourself. So
what is your hook up? What is the way you disconnect? At those little moments
throughout the day, what actions are taking your attention away from the real
you, and into some fantasy land. And why might we find these places more
interesting than focusing on ourselves and finding the true joy in being an
embodied spirit and feeling alive?
Hope this allows for new emerging awareness, and hopefully you can find
new actions that are more congruent with what really is valuable and meaningful
in your life.
Embracing a life of exceptional,
Dr. Steve
